Monday, 22 June 2015

My son was Suspended from school, he is five years old


The title of this post is shocking I agree, and lot's of people would say blame the parents, why not its always easy to point the finger, people will say they must not be coping or they probably don't tell him off or even that as parents we ignore Liam - But this is definitely not the case, if you have been following Liam's story on my blog you will know we have been fighting to get him help but every last ounce of help that he and our family needs to support Liam has had to be fought for even the school have let us down in many ways.

Suspension or expulsion for Liam's behavior was one of my biggest fears as a parent but after a meeting with the school around a month before this happened, the school reassured myself and Liam's dad that this would be a very, very last resort and they didn't like to do this to children of his age - quite rightly so I agreed. Liam hates school so taking him out of school would be ultimately giving him what he wants, which is not beneficial to him.




You might ask then, what did Liam do to get to a point where the school felt the need to suspend him, well nothing unusual really for Liam his favorite tricks spitting, lashing out, hiding under the tables and basically disrupting the class, the thing is no one goes into a job and expects to be abused verbally or physically by any other human being no matter what the age - however as I said in a previous post the school just can not cope with him, they're running out of behavior techniques to use with Liam, and they just do not want him in that school, the head teacher told me that it would "look better on his records" if they have, had to suspend him so he can get the help he requires, What I don't understand is why it has to come to this before extra help can be put into place - it might help them to look better on their records and school inspections, but on Liam's records he will be judged by it for the rest of his life.

I agree that Liam should not be a pupil at this school its not beneficial to him, to the teaching staff or to the other pupils, but they are just not helping. For Liam to move schools he needs a statement and a diagnosis and to get this he needs an educational psychologist report all of which he has been waiting for, for over a year now, it is up to the school to sort this out, which just does not seem to be happening for one reason or another. 

I think the action they have taken is unfair as it isn't going to make an already bad situation any better, you see all children like Liam are going to have a long road ahead of them, because they're just to young to know how to cope with their feelings and know how to control there temper, but I didn't count on every step of Liam's journey being a battle for us as parents surely the support and systems should just be in place to be able to access them when they are required for any child, but clearly the system they have in place is just not working.


      
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10 comments:

  1. Ah my heart really goes out to you. Schools are just not equipped to cope with any children outside of what they consider "normal" parameters. I have a RL friend with two autistic children and she has had to fight and fight and is still fighting to the detriment of her own health. I know it's not what you need to hear right now but keep going, keep pushing, involve your local MP, local papers. You are doing a great job.
    #MPBW

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  2. sounds very difficult, and I wish you luck. Keep your head up.

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  3. It seems a bit drastic suspending a child at that age, and as you point out, he will see this as a treat rather than a punishment if he hates school. On the other hand though, I can see it from the other parent's point of view - they don't want their children getting hit, kicked or spit on so I can see that the school had to act, just maybe there are better ways. Good luck getting the help you need :) #binkylinky
    Debbie
    www.myrandommusings.blogspot.com

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  4. It is tough as a parent because with anything out of the ordinary we do have to keep pushing other wise nothing happens. It can be exhausting particularly as it comes with extra work anyway. I hope he gets the help he needs soon. #binkylinky

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  5. Trying to get any sort of help is just a nightmare! We still can't get the Tubblet's school to admit she's got some form of dyslexia. I wish you luck and strength. #binkylinky

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    1. Pressed return too soon ... And that you find the right help and support for all of you

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  6. I don't understand why it's so difficult for schools to get kids the help they need. If he needs a statement then why can't they push that through rather than suspending him? Hope he gets support soon and can move schools. X

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  7. I really don't think there is any need for a school to suspend a child of 5 whatever the circumstances, I'm so sorry you are not getting the support you need from your school, it must be incredibly frustrating for you, especially as you can see exactly where they are going wrong.

    I hope you get things sorted soon so it doesn't have too much of an affect on your son and family x #binkylinky

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  8. I feel for you I really do and the school should not have suspended him at all, but I do know the other side. Getting a statement and additional support is ridiculously hard from a school's perspective too I hope you get what help you need
    AliceMegan

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  9. I don't think suspending a five year old is the answer. I really do feel for you. I think the school need to work harder with both of you in helping you get the support you need. Suspending him doesn't result in anything positive. Sorry the comment for last weeks #BinkyLinky is a little late, we were on holiday and only got back late last night!

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